NO FAMILY IS PERFECT; AS NO ONE IS PERFECT.

The minute we are born, we are born with such innocence; a heart full of love and wanting to be loved. We grow up to think our parents are perfect and we just don’t see any of the faults and cracks, but it leads us to the question “Does the perfect family exist?” or do the families that look “perfect” just learn to respect each other for who they are? Do they learn to laugh at each other being silly; without the other person feeling attacked? And do they just not have an urge to force their opinions onto each other? As we know no one is actually perfect.

As I grew up, I slowly started to accept my parents are not perfect and it’s hard! Also, heart-breaking and sometimes life-changing. You end up with so much confusion, you end up in fights and a lot of arguments are caused. I wonder why there can’t be a mutual understanding in families? My biggest thought process back then was, if I am being put through the education system should I not be allowed to find my own way or have my own thoughts BUT with guidance from them that compliments what I also want from MY life? Not just being told what to do and how.

Now I am in my 30’s and I am reflecting back, I have the realisation that ‘They weren’t perfect, they were also on their own journeys in life’. Who knows maybe our parent’s fires had also been extinguished along the way? or maybe they achieved exactly what they wanted to, the way they wanted to, so they just wanted you to repeat the same thing to ensure success? So many thoughts and theories but I suppose parents are just winging it. We have to be so careful however, to not dictate each other’s lives as a family and to in fact guide and hype each other to be the best version of ourselves.

I think the quicker we normalise the thought process that kids can teach parents as well as parents teaching children, the quicker we learn to accept each other’s strengths and see the fire in each of our family members belly grow quicker! Kids are learning daily and they are growing up in a different time to what we did, how can we expect them not to know different things to us. We need to evolve this dictatorship in parenting because little people have fire in their bellies too and if we pour water on their big dreams, we already setting them up to struggle with their true self.

Finding a balance between guiding your child and telling your child there is only one path is very dangerous, we can’t expect our kids to live OUR dreams because then what happens to THEIRS? Find a way to work together, I am sure all parents just want their kids to live a comfortable and financially stable life, but working together, hearing your child’s dream allows them to live that financially independent life but also a mentally happy & stable life.

What is a family? Well in my “opinion” It is just a mix of 3,4,5 or 6 people living together and all trying to find their own purpose and path in life so why not just live supporting each other and accepting weaknesses and just be each other’s hype woman! Or hype man! Now the idea of that taking over every household, is just the dream! That really would be “The Perfect Family”.